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Passionate, primary, wild connection... A few minutes, might be an hour... oh, it’s a lucky one, I’m sorry – a few times for a night. And after that - “no connection” with that number, nobody needs a fight. Bittersweet taste. That’s what you like most of all, no memories for a face. Just a little scratches on the back, “love” traces on the neck...

“Waiter, one more time the same!” – how about that beauty there, might be she would like to ... share?

“How you doin’?...” – prince Charming, welcome back again.

“The lust gorgeous is my only friend”.

And the question is:

“Would you like to have a ... Schweppes with me?...”

No expectation, no complications, no disappointment, no hesitation... The rule is clear “one night only”, so congratulation!  You win one way ticket to the “sin”. But tell me ain’t it a frailty to lie you are in love meanwhile to prowl after another one? In the first case both know what are they doing and how it’s gonna end. Ok it’s a lecherous but no one is pretending will be your best friend.

And what do you get when you go on with all the probity you can afford? Is that what you need an imaginary support? It looks so perfect that you can hardly believe, when you at least expect it, you have to leave. Is that equitable for you? Who says what’s false and true? Which game do you play? Are you gonna say “No!” or “Stay!...”?

Shall we blame those who dare to reveal their cards or the one who knows his/her behaviour will hurts you but indomitable starts?...

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What's the point to be so upset, when in the morning you are not the first one who leaves the bed? You get used to do so but if she does, you call her a “w**re”. Same action different name, another man or woman tonight will burn with that flame.

She is young, beautiful and smart to analyze her is definitely hard. She is there with some friends – ordering a drink, starts to dance, indecently she wants a romance?! No, it’s not necessarily but if there is something enough tempting – she is free.

You don’t know her – might be she is successful business lady, single mom, past more then you could ever imagine. Might be?... If so, why should that be wrong? Men say: “there only easy women”, she thinks there is no worthy man who can be really strong. It’s the critical subjective attitude that drives you indignant to “shoot”! Most of us could say it’s embarrassing, a mother cannot do anything that way.

But why do you think it’s so disgusting, she is having fun, being honest and happy, you judge – hustling. When a person wants to live with less complication and that is the main rule in his/her communication, shell we overanalyzed and deny emphatically that dimension? Is about the freewill - if I’ve forgot to mention...

Eight golden roles for a GENTLEMAN-HALF:

1.     Good manners - I’m sorry but no it’s not old fashion to be a gentleman. It just cannot happen. Well, might be there are some exceptions in that too, but for sure most of the women won’t get mad if you are mindful, interesting, confident and funny instead of arrogant, insolent and selfish or boring, shy and clumsy. There is no way to go wrong if you got style, if you hold hands gentle while walking and show her you know how to treat her like the lady she is, not because of her fancy dress or make-up, but because you like her naturally. No matter for how long your plans are going with that woman, don’t hesitate to show her your best part and behaviour. She just cannot be upset if you open the door every time giving her a hand. It would be fantastic if you can express your desire with elegance. When you want to make a compliment don’t use a phrase known by heart, say it honestly. Remember to be gentleman is not about acting something you’re not or to attitudinize. It should be an intuitive way to show somebody is special for you.

2.   Jealousy! –I know, you just cannot help it, you want to protect her that’s way you are checking her e-mail, sms, last calls, plans for the week, etc. It is time to stop and understand it’s about trust. Don’t you believe her, why do you think she is with you if she don’t love you?  Be more confident and relax, she do love you and the only problem is your jealousy. Your half knows you’re very careful but show her that wonderful virtue in any other way but that one! Jealousy is killing slowly everything between you. Every time when you feel it’s getting out of control just do something to remind you important is that woman for you and how painful it would be if you lose her. And instead of getting angry and start a fight, kiss her, wish her a nice day/evening or whatever she is going just let her go with smile and desire to get back to you sooner, not disappointed, mad and desperate. Your lady is a flower and she needs air, to breathe freely, not to beg for a permission to live, love her, support her and enjoy your life with her calmly!

3.   Respect - Very important and pretty hard to get realized. But basically is simple only two things: don’t be jealous and the second one – remember like you want to keep your privacy she needs the same too.

 4.   NO summaries! - The world is full of deceit and depravity! – True!  But it’s not about and because of the women. There is always an exception and if you prefer to make them only the way they are advantageous for you then don’t expect understanding from your half and think about that you choose by your own your beloved! If you are not satisfied with looking for faults in yourself.

5.    Apology – Everyone can make a mistake, of course. But don’t be shy, you cannot deny you would love to hear “I am terribly sorry! You were right!” – Beatific words you can hear them all the time “I love you honey, it was my fault, please forgive me!”  And again of course you don’t mind to forgive lavishly, because she knows how to convince you, pleasurably... So, my dear be good and don’t forget to return the favour and apology every time you did it wrong, but honestly and assiduously, let her enjoy the sweet trembling in your voice, do your best to receive a forgiveness for your remorse.

6.   Awesome – If you do insist you are so remarkable, don’t miss to keep in fit. If you have some reproof to your beloved first make sure there is no speckle on you and because of your supremacy she hasn't said anything. Otherwise keep on moving, try to reach the perfection and be the leading reason for her to become more and more beautiful every day.

7.    Good listener – It’s always in vogue. Ok, very often is very hard to follow women’s thought, how about understanding them, but at least you can try to do it. When there is something you don’t get better ask her, don’t overanalyzed or ignore her words. She is the one that can explain everything and if she wants to share something with you and it seems mixed-up, talk to her. Don’t put it away and leave her lead a monologue. If the subject is a gossip or something else that is a really needless to discuss then you have all the rights to switch the conversation gently to a new direction, something more satisfying. Use your imagination!

8.   Do NOT take her for granted! – In one moment you’re thankful to your fortune you’ve met you better half, next one you easily forget how lucky you are, forget to call you will be late, you get mad because your favourite shirt is not wash, you are losing control because there is a little scratch on your car and it doesn’t matter what exactly have happened. You know she will “be there for you”, like where else she could go?! You have done so much for her, didn’t she knows that you love her?! – I’m sorry, the answer is NOT. You cannot do a lot for a while and in a moment you feel bored to leave your relationship to sail automatically.  What is wrong? – love is endless care, not a constant that is waiting for you every night in a naughty mood, speechless, ready to take a command. If you really don’t want to lose your partner make the dedication your way of living. If not you better let her go now, and both live happily separated. It’s not taking a lot of time to write a love note, something from your soul, for example: What does she means to you?, sms, or a short call in the middle of the day to remind her you want her; to quote her favourite poem, song or book. Actually the only things you need for sure are an imagination and DESIRE!

To be continued...

Nine points to be a fantastic LADY-HALF

It doesn’t matter are you married, or not, are you planning to do so, or definitely not. If you have a relationship with someone and the things aren’t going just the way you would like, then check out are you doing those simple things, they might be useful ;)

1. Each one of us knows or at least has heard about that is really important to respect your partner’s freedom ;) But no mater why, most carefully wives/halves can NOT actually understand it right. So my dear, stop asking about everything, listen when you soul mate wants to share but don’t insist and push it! Forget about your curiosity and when you want to ask do it without any anger or irritability, only permitted way is to be honest, friendly and maybe gently sarcastic, IF it becomes fun of that! ;)

2. Jealousy – weakness, equal to unnecessary. If you want to get out of home with friends totally relaxed and confident, believe to your sweetheart and give him the same. You are supposed to know each other which mean to believe to one another. So next time you feel it’s coming up, stop your- self and instead of yelling and be ironical, show him your irresistible charming smile, which he loves so much! Work on that emotional comfort to be glad while he is having fun with somebody else, be happy, feel happy and let him make you happier! =)

    3.  Don’t you ever act dictatorially! He is a man and he will always be, so don’t try to take his pride. Even if you don’t understand it that way, that’s what it is. So keep your temperament for another part like the intimacy for example – if you want to be a mistress and that turn him on, then go on! Otherwise, take it easy and remember he is a man, he is your man, don’t try to take his manliness!

   4.  You are together for a long time or not that long but he has seen already seen you without your amazing make-up, fancy clothes and hair-style. =) He knows all your body secrets and he always says “I love you in any way, you are beautiful for me!” That is fantastic for sure, but don’t take the phrase: “I prefer you natural” as “Finally there is no need to take care for my-self!” Yes, he knows you, he knows all you ladies tricks to get more beautiful, but don’t drive him misses the time back then when you were still dating, just to remind your beauty - the way that you hardly make a decision which dress, shoes to put on that they  would suits his hair the best way. This is “woman’s stuff” and all the men put a label “bullshit” probably, but believe me there is no man who wants to see his woman when he got back home the way he left her there in the morning ;) Remember it’s good first for you and of course for your soul mate to keep in fit, to do all that “ladies bullshit staff” because this is the way you make him and your relation special! Even if he’s a little out of shape in that moment, don’t you think: “Look at him! He’s not doing anything, so why should I keep in fit for him?!” Don’t get incite against your love! Take it like you are his stimulus, when he sees you making so much to look better and better every day he will want to get fittingly next to you! =) You keep the magic from the beginning that way, reminding him how adorable you are in any way, on the spur of the moment he is staring at you just saying: “WOW”, you will have the same sweet feeling to be the sexiest woman for that man! And both will keep that magic alive in the years ahead, as long as you keep on showing you thrilled with joy to get next to each other!

     5. Well, you are not so into cooking, you might prefer to watch TV, or go shopping, probably it seems even better for you to buy something for gift or if need to order food from a restaurant instead of trying to do something you already said a few times “I don’t know how to do that!”;“I cannot make it the right way”; May be your partner respect your feeling about cooking and like a real gentleman just says: “Don’t worry, honey! It’s not a big deal, we will take something “drive through”. Even because of that understanding from him you should at least try, again =) It’s not necessary to do something big! You can prepare a special salad, something exotic – seafood and avocado with ginger, wasabi or sweet chili sauce; or something for desert – you can use a bit alcohol like rum, liqueur, chocolate, cinnamon, cookies, some fruits – like bananas or melon,… it’s all up to you. There are a plenty of opportunities how and what to make if you want you can prepare something special on your recipe, composition of vegetables you both like and a main dish – fish or other kind of meat golden backed in oven =) Just remember, it’s always something special and important when you cook for your love. That’s the easiest way to be tender, to show your caring and to make a cozy atmosphere for the two of you =). Try that, see his face and reactions and then make a decision is it worth the efforts? I bet it does! =)

    6.  Criticism = worst habit! Normally you ask your partner to do some stuff – to buy or repair something, to tidy up this or remove that; to check; select and to have all done the best way is what you expect! Men by nature are helpful but abstracted, sometimes they are not able to organize everything the best way it could and it’s not because they don’t want but thanks to their practicalness they don’t pay attention to the details, like you would love them to do. It is not necessary all people to be the same, so be more tolerant and every time when you ask him for a favour be thankful that you got someone to rely on and even if he’s forget about your request, keep that thankful thought in mind – everybody can make a mistake, to get mad all the time is one for sure! 

    7. Femininity – you are a woman, that’s why he is with you. So don’t let the dust of the daily grind to cover your tenderness. These days more or less each one of us should be confident, strong, determinate and somehow all that routine move aside partly our sensibility. Our handsome half is there to help and protect us, to show every moment we can count on him. So ladies don’t run away from your prince! The world wants enough from us to be tough, getting back at your castle, please feel free to melt into his loving hands!...

  8. Mysteriousness – think for you like you are a magic box. The only limit of your power is your imagination! It’s not about the money, it’s about the way you perceive having fun. If you feel bored don’t wait for your better half to do something, to figure it out for you… You can make it, you’re the boss, you decide what is gonna pop up from the box to make you both have a good time! Don’t be shy, there is nothing to hide! The only think that may happen is to surprise him and your-self too, ain’t it tempting? Show him that you’re never failing get him exhausted the sweetest way you know! By making a small or big, simple, funny, crazy things from nothing, from usual stuff you will keep your soul mate thirsty for YOU, he won’t be able to get enough of YOU! =) So keep him wide-awake! You don’t want your sweetheart to take you for granted, right? So do your best to be unpredictable! It’s easy and believe me you will enjoy it too. =)

9. Friendship - proverbial male friendship turns out to be unattainable limit for most of the graceful halves of the gentlemen. And that is the obstacle you should try to cross. There is no need to displace some of his friends. No. Contrary, it is really important to respect his surrounding people, to be friendly with them like you do with your friends. And if you can build a strong friendship between you and your beloved both will have a strong relation no matter what happens in future, what you decide you want to do forth. The time you spend together will make you feel more satisfied. Sounds good but you don’t know how to do it? Here is an idea: From now on, you will listen more then you speak. What that means? – It’s simple, normally the ladies love to talk almost all the time (24x7..), and that way imperceptibly they forget about the main theme of his interlocutor, which is boring for him and discouraging to share. That’s why try to be patience, affable, show him the best part of your character, be quite while he is talking and try to understand right every single word without any exaggerating. If he wants he will tell you what’s in his mind, don’t try to push it just because you are curious or ‘cause you know you can help. Yes, you could help but only if he allows you. So if you want to first make him feel cozy, comfortable with you, have fun and calm him down with your honest smile. If you made it he will start explaining everything. Don’t forget to listen and give advice only if he asks you for them. Of course you will give your opinion when he’s shared his thoughts, but don’t insist and act that silly game“who is wrong, who is right”. Everyone has different point of view, if you want to help share yours but remember it is mainly YOURS. If you feel free, relaxed and kind of happy, if you see in his eyes placidity and feel his frankness, then you know how it feels to be a real friend with your half. Enjoy that feeling and keep it, take care for it by ignoring any dramatizing, irony, nagging, otherwise you will lose that treasure. If he feels good talking to you with no fear of confusion, there will be no border, your thoughts will be welcome without a chance of misunderstanding. Once you honestly feel you share to each other more then you’ve ever imagine you have already become a friends! Now you know how amazing is the male friendship this unexplained directness that never offends.

To be continued...